From time to time there is controversy among Jesus followers about when or at what point loving someone is giving license to their beliefs or behavior. It may be possible to err on one side or the other. On one hand judging beliefs or behavior is hard to separate from the one in a zillion person espousing them. I always want to be careful to love the sinner (at least from my perspective) while not liking the sin. That was some great direction from my Big Mama (about 5’4″ and near ’bout that wide). She more lived it than said it. On the other hand some people’s beliefs and behavior are so intolerable (hateful, harmful to themselves or others) that we have to take a firm and strong stand against what they are doing and hope they are able to separate themselves from it and be always ready to help them find their way.
Some areas are gray. Take homosexuality for example. At least it’s gray for me. Is it learned behavior or environmental or genetic? Would that make a difference? Heartsong has an official stance on the issue-rather on the people who in their hearts and minds whether in practice or not see themselves as homosexuals. If you want a copy of that statement as approved by our council, email me or call the church office and I will see that you get one. In a nutshell (and I do hope you read the whole thing) it says that while the issue can be debated as to whether it is a sinful lifestyle or not, we do not believe we have to “solve” the issue in order to love the people.
I have a fantasy that guides me about responding to this issue (and others) and the dear people who struggle with it more than I will ever have to struggle. When I stand before our Daddy to give an account of how I spent my life following Jesus I would much rather hear, “Steve, you were really soft and way too tolerant on the homosexuality issue”, than to hear, “It just crushed my heart every time you hurt one of my dear daughters or sons with your hardness and intolerance.” If you had to hear one of those two things, which would you rather hear?